Though it’s not uncommon to see acquaintances toasting at a wedding where the tradition still resonates most. Besides making it heartfelt and keeping it (reasonably) clean, guests and hosts should follow the guidelines below.
Giving a Wedding Toast
Rule #1: Be brief
It's best to stay under three minutes. Unless you are the Bride or Groom's Mother or Father
Rule #2: Rehearse
Sometimes even spontaneity requires a little forethought. Practice out loud in the mirror a few times.
Rule #3: Get The Crowd's Attention
Avoid tapping your glass; simply stand and speak loudly and clearly.
Receiving a Wedding Toast
Rule #4: Don't Drink To Yourself
Avoid raising your glass, and remain seated when the toast is offered to you.
Wedding Toast Rules for Guests
Rule #5: Let the Host Toast First
Champagne glasses on the table indicate toasts will be made, usually after the main course.
Rule #6: Never Refuse to Participate
If you're a nondrinker, it is courteous to raise an empty glass, rather than none at all. If you're nervous about public speaking, have a couple of short toasts committed to memory in case you're unexpectedly called upon.
Wedding Toast Rules for Hosts
Rule #7: Inform Guests if You Would Like Them to Toast
If you're hosting a wedding and would like for certain guests to give toasts , it's polite to call them a week before the party to let them know and inform them of the 3 minute or less rule.